Self management is the ability to remain calm in emotionally trying situations. While many factors influence how you feel and may be beyond your control, if you’re highly self regulated, you’re good at controlling your reactions. You can make clear-headed decisions even if the world is falling apart around you. Also, if you’re highly self-regulated, you can easily adapt, because the discomfort that often comes from change won’t make you stumble. Self-management is a necessary skill for people planning to go into jobs that are fast-paced and dangerous. For example, you would want to be self-regulated as a firefighter. If you panicked you could hyperventilate and pass out, endangering yourself and those you were trying to save.

Prompts That Support Self-Management

Self-Management refers to methods, skills, and strategies by which individuals can effectively direct their own activities toward the achievement and includes goal setting. Ability to handle situations which challenge interpersonal relationships.

  1. Time Management: Assessing the ability to effectively manage time, set priorities, and allocate resources to different tasks and responsibilities.
  2. Task Prioritization: Evaluating the skills to identify and prioritize tasks based on their importance, urgency, and alignment with long-term goals.
  3. Decision-Making: Measuring the ability to make informed decisions by gathering relevant information, evaluating alternatives, and considering potential consequences.
  4. Adaptability: Assessing the capacity to adapt to changing circumstances, adjust plans as needed, and remain flexible in the face of unexpected challenges or setbacks.
  5. Resilience: Evaluating one’s ability to bounce back from failures, setbacks, or difficult situations, and maintain a positive outlook while navigating obstacles.
  6. Proactive Planning: Measuring the skills to anticipate potential obstacles, plan contingencies, and take proactive steps to prevent or mitigate potential problems.
  7. Emotional Regulation: Assessing the ability to manage and regulate emotions effectively, especially during times of stress or high-pressure situations.
  8. Self-Discipline: Evaluating the capacity to stay focused, motivated, and consistent in pursuing goals, even when faced with distractions or temptations.
  9. Resource Management: Measuring the ability to allocate and utilize resources efficiently, including time, energy, finances, and other relevant assets.
  10. Resolving Procrastination: Assessing one’s ability to identify and address tendencies to procrastinate, develop strategies to overcome it, and maintain consistent progress towards goals.

  1. What are some things that make you feel mad?
  2. What are some things that make you feel sad?
  3. What are some things that make you feel happy?
  4. What strategies have you used to help with difficult emotions during online learning or your transition back to school?
  1. What do you like about ____?
  2. What is challenging about ____?
  3. What is something you are good at?
  4. Who in/at ____, your family or your neighborhood can you go to if you are having a problem in/at ____– like with a friend?
  5. What assets do you see in yourself?
  1. What are some goals you have in/at ____?
  2. What internal qualities or external supports have helped you accept new challenges and adjust to change?
  3. How did you handle it if you ever felt like giving up at something you wanted to get better at?